What happens if you leave a fraternity

I only came out of it with the help of a school therapist who happened to be a fraternity alum who also cares deeply about social issues, Zoloft, and the release date of graduation just weeks away.

Once a brother asked me at lunch if I was ever going to write about how horrible fraternities are. I guess the answer is yes. All Rights Reserved. The answer is no. And I say that as a recently graduated fraternity alum. You also need to realize that your existing relationships with brothers will change.

Even though you are really close now, chances are you will grow apart if you quit. When you quit though you are going to be giving up a lot.

Like mentioned above, you will lose your friends in the chapter. You will also lose opportunities to grow as a leader and serve your community.

Those things can be found in other groups on a college campus, but I argue that the fraternity experience is better training and practice in those areas. You will also lose future connections to your university. By being a member of a fraternity you will always have a connection with your school, and that connection will be celebrated with reunions and alumni weekends.

You will be quitting your friends and abandoning all the relationships you have built in the chapter. What do you now? If you want to do the right thing and be a man about the situation you need to have the tough one-on-one conversations. That means having the conversation with your closest friends in the fraternity.

You will need to explain why you are quitting, and realize they will have a solution for whatever reason you give. This will be hard, and they will try to get you to change their mind. If you owe back dues, you need to pay them. If you owe rent, you need to pay it. A men honors his commitments and obligations. You will be doing him and the fraternity a favor if you share with him the true reason for your quitting.

It would great if they could use that information to improve the fraternity in the future. At this time, you should give back your pin, manuals and other property that should remain with the fraternity.

The letter needs to be dated. The letter needs to note that you have fulfilled all your financial obligations to the chapter. The letter also needs to ask for the formal release from the fraternity. This email will serve as an important time stamp that you have officially quit.

You need to do this for legal reasons. You also want to make sure you are very clear that you are no longer affiliated with the fraternity should they get in trouble for any reason. You are notifying the chapter president of obvious reasons. You are notifying the Greek Life director to make sure the disassociation is recognized by the school.

You are notifying the National HQ because ultimately they are the only one who can remove you from the fraternity roster. You were privileged to secrets and rituals as an initiated brother. Those rights of passage are sacred to the fraternity. Take the high road when you are asked about the fraternity. Nothing positive comes from you speaking poorly of the fraternity. You cannot join another fraternity after initiated. Under those guidelines, your only option would be to start a new chapter of your fraternity at your new school.

Originally Answered: How can you party in college without being a frat? You can go to dorm parties, house parties and frat parties. Frats are especially welcoming during fall of your freshman year since they want potential pledges to get a positive impression and consider joining. The actor dropped out with only a few credits to go to head to Hollywood.

Will I be able to be a member of the fraternity at the school I transfer to? All but two fraternities have secret rituals Delta Upsilon and Alpha Kappa Lambda, and the reason for the secrecy is to preserve that special bond, and to commit the members to honorable behavior.

As far as operations go, there is virtually no secrecy at the national level.